Netiquette, by Virginia Shea, page 117
well, that's what kill files are for. If your system doesn't offer a kill file, lobby with the management to get one.
Things to watch out for
Romance is probably physically safer online than, say, at a downtown
bar. It's harder to get beaten up, raped, or infected with an incurable
disease when you're communicating via computer.
But cyberspace romance is no safer emotionally than real life. The
questions above hint at some of the
dangers you might encounter. Here
are some stories:
In one well-publicized case, a particularly charming fellow was quite
successful in romancing women on the
WELL. With at least two
women, the relationship progressed to the physical level. Through discussion in a women-only area of the WELL, his victims learned they
had all been involved with the same guy, and he'd told each one how
special and unique she was. Needless to say, they weren't pleased.
Their response: They posted a note to a public forum warning others
about the "Cyber-Scam-Artist." They didn't reveal his name in the posting, but offered to give it to anyone who called and asked them.
This response was an example of excellent Netiquette. The women
took action to protect other women rather than to get revenge. Their
decision not to reveal the cad's name in their posting was especially
well-considered. And they seem to have successfully stopped the cad's
actions.
However, the cad himself felt his treatment was unfair. Although he
admitted he had made mistakes -- both by lying and by assuming "that
computer relationships were somehow different than physical relationships" -- he defended himself by saying that both he and the women
had been voluntarily "experimenting in a very new area." (Endnote #27) That's true,
but it's no excuse.
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